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Seven Things to Consider when Choosing a Life Partner

Seven Things to Consider when Choosing a Life Partner

The choice of a life partner is the most critical choice of your life. Oftentimes, we conjure pictures in our mind on our would-be life partners would be or look like. Some would go-ahead to make a list of mandatory specifics such as he/she must be handsome, beautiful, tall, short, slim, chubby, fat, must be rich, educated, and presentable e.t.c. It is good to have these kinds of ideas but you need to stop and ask yourself what is truly important to consider before saying I do? There are so many things to consider and be aware of before you embark on the journey of marriage. Some of the basic factors to consider are: 

Faith

This plays a major role in marriage. If you practice a particular faith, how important is it that your partner share the same faith and practice it with you? How does faith affect your lifestyle? What faith do you want to raise your children in? In choosing a spouse, you are mindful of going for someone of different beliefs from yours. Being nice and morally upright isn’t the criteria to justify this point but being of the same faith with your future spouse will save you from so many dramas and trouble in your home.

Companionship

One of the main reasons for marriage is companionship and friendship. Don’t marry a stranger and hope you will become compatible overnight. Don’t try to make your spouse your friend but out of your friends choose a partner. When you meet someone on the level of friendship before you get married, it is difficult to fake the relationship. After the romance and sex are gone, it is the friendship that will keep the relationship going. 

Communication

It is the foundation of a happy, healthy, and long-lasting marriage. It is about truly understanding each other. Once there is a dichotomy in your speaking and understanding level, you can’t enjoy that marriage. Can you truly talk to her and can she truly talk to you? Don’t marry someone who is rigid and not open to new ideas, new ways of doing things, or innovations. Communication is so important because several occasions will arise in a marriage where you and your partner would need to sit, discuss, and figure things out.

 Character

What is his / her behavior like? Is there self-control? Is he/she consistently angry or violent? Is he or she abusive: physically, verbally, or emotionally? Does he/ she snap at you, belittle you or always put you down?  It is good to marry someone you love, but looks aren’t enough. Life is full of beautiful women and handsome/ rich men but not all that glitters is gold.

Sex

Marry someone you have sexual feelings for. Sex plays a vital role in the success of any marriage. If you don’t have emotional feelings for your future spouse, it is a recipe for misunderstanding and broken relationships. You both should understand this fundamental aspect of marriage and adapt as soon as possible. Sex and romance are a non-negotiable part of marriage! You will flirt with each other and you will make babies. So, marry someone you can connect with sexually.  it will create more intimacy between you and your partner.

Compatibility

This is the ability of both of you to get along. Having certain strengths/ things that complement each other. Make sure you check basic issues such as:

(a) Values: Do both of you share the same perspective about life? 

(b) The purpose of life: Where you are going to determine who will go with you. You must, first of all, discover your purpose for life before choosing a partner for life. Make sure you marry someone that can accommodate your vision and appreciate what you are called to do in life.

Hence, it is important to know how compatible you are with your partner. There must be a certain level of compatibility. If the gulf between you both is too wide, it may create challenges in the future

When choosing a spouse please be very careful of undue influences. Make sure you are choosing someone that has the real qualities that can sustain a home. Let your choices be based on true love and friendship. Marriage is a commitment the both of you must want to go along with willingly. If the man/ woman doesn’t appreciate you enough to marry you please let them go. Someone that will appreciate you will come.

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Love Facts unveiled

Love ranks among the most often discussed subject both online and offline. A simple search on the word “Love” will bring up 14 billion search results. Funny enough, there is no single definition of this ancient subject. It means different things to different persons. There are some amazing facts I’ll be sharing on this beautiful subject 

You got to Let go 

A rather sad thing about life is when you meet someone who means the world to you, only to discover at the end that it wasn’t meant to be. Like a dream, you got to wake up and let go. 

Love hurts 

It hurts to have a deep affection for someone and not to be loved in return. What is even more painful is to love someone and never have the courage or boldness to let the person know how you feel inside. 

Love is beyond the physical 

True love still exists and can be found even in the most common places. Deep affection is when you take away the feelings, the romance, the sex, and the passion away from the relationship, and you still discover you care for that person. 

Stop looking at the closed door 

There is always the possibility of heartbreaks when it comes to being fond of someone. However, when the door of affection slam closes, another opens, but oftentimes, we look so long at the closed door that we don’t see the one which has been opened for us. 

Don’t expect Love in return 

It is always natural to expect people to love you back after giving them all you got. Unfortunately, it may not work out the way you planned. Just wait for it to grow in the heart. But if it doesn’t, be content it grew in yours. 

Love sometimes comes from strange places

There are things you’ll wish to hear from the person you truly care about. Unfortunately, you may not hear these things. But don’t be too deaf as not to hear it from the one who says it from the heart! Love can be found in the most unlikely places. Amid unimaginable pains, we can always find happiness. Things may not always go the way we planned, but our kind spirits will surely experience beautiful moments.

Never say goodbye to the one you truly love 

The institution of marriage is not a tea party. It comes with great commitments and sacrifices. Never say goodbye if you still want to try. Don’t give up if you feel you can still go on. Why say you don’t care about a person anymore if you can’t go a day without thinking about the person. 

Love comes to the courageous 

In life like in relationships, there are ups and downs. There are moments of extreme pain and also beautiful moments filled with all we ever desired in life. Love comes to those who still hope, although they’ve been disappointed by past relationships. Those who still believe, though they’ve been betrayed by those who they once cherished. Some have been badly hurt, but like wounded soldiers, they still trudge on. Love always comes to those who have the courage and faith to build trust again! 

Don’t ever go for Looks

“The hearts expressions can never be found in the face”. Looks can be so secretive, so never you go for looks. Lots of people go for wealth, unfortunately, wealth can grow wings and fly away. Choose to go for someone who makes you smile always, because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seems bright. 

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