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Four practical ways to deal with a nagging spouse

Nagging can be defined as an incessant complaint by a partner about someone’s habit or behavioral pattern in a relationship. It is a common cause of most broken relationships. It can start with a salient or hushed remark about simple issues like food, dress, or housekeeping. The question is: “How then can one handle a nagging spouse”?

Show love and understanding

The more love you shower upon your spouse who is always nagging, the less frequent the occurrence of nagging. It, however, takes more than an effort to display love where nagging goes to the extreme. Love is like a stream that quenches the flame ignited by nagging. Love can forgive any wrongdoing on your person, no matter how severe it is. Life can be difficult sometimes especially with families and kids coming in. Things may not go exactly as you planned, and this may result in nagging from either partner, but it is very important that love and understanding be shown.

Open channels of communications

The urge is always strong to avoid direct contact with a nagging wife or husband. When partners no longer talk to each other due to the problem of nagging, it can escalate the entire issue and blow it out of proportion.

I have often seen couples who avoid each other for a lengthy period because of this single problem and at the end of the day; it becomes extremely difficult to reconcile both parties due to the enormous damage that has been inflicted. The more open both partners are, the easier it is to handle this negative attribute which is capable of destroying relationships.

Appreciate any positive progress made

When a partner makes any positive progress in a given area, it is good that appreciation should be extended. When an individual knows his/her effort to create a positive change is being noticed, it will aid total transformation and eliminate negative barriers.

It is not enough to complain about things your partner has failed to do, but also to appreciate the little things he/she does. It may sound childish, but it thus works wonders.

Never retaliate

There is always the temptation to retaliate when the issue of nagging crops up, but it is important to avoid falling into such temptations. The process of nagging creates a hurting effect in an individual and the best way to handle it is not to retaliate because two wrongs cannot make a right. Retaliation is a sign of immaturity and a lack of forgiveness.





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Every Relationship have their ups and downs

How would you rate your relationship on a scale-out of 10?

Is there any room for improvement?

If your relationship is like most, then yea, there is room for improvement.

Even if you have experienced a lot of failed relationships in the past or struggling to rekindle the fires of romance in your current relationship, you can learn to stay connected, find fulfillment and enjoy lasting happiness. All romantic relationships go through ups and downs. They all require some level of commitment, respect, trust, loyalty, trust,  honesty, patience,  and a willingness to adapt and change with your partner to make it work.

At some point in our lives, we may believe that love should be like the kind of romance we see portrayed in movies,  television, and novels. Despite the claims of romantic fiction or movies, no one person can meet all your needs. Expecting too much from your partner can put unhealthy pressure on your relationship. If you are expecting to get what you want 100% in a relationship, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Healthy relationships are built on sacrifice. It takes a lot of work on each person’s part to have a healthy affair.

A great number of relationships often fall apart because of a lack of direct communication. When people stop communicating well, they stop relating well but as long as you are communicating you can work through whatever problems you are facing. Your partner is not a mind reader. It is much healthier to express your needs directly to avoid confusion. Your partner may sense something’s but it might not be what you need. What you needed and wanted some years ago for instance may be very different now. So, instead of letting resentment, misunderstanding, bitterness, or anger grow when your partner continually gets it wrong, develop the habit of telling them exactly what you need.

Conflict is inevitable in any relationship. Don’t start arguments over things that cannot be changed. Rather than looking to past conflicts or grudges and assigning blame, focus on what you can do to solve the problem. If you can’t agree, agree to disagree. It takes two people to keep an argument going. If a conflict is going nowhere, you can choose to disengage and move on. Always remember that you are arguing with the person you love.

You will not always be on the same page. Change is inevitable in life and it will happen in your relationship whether you go with it or not. Making a positive change does not need to be a complicated process. It just needs to be a consistent process where you progressively develop new habits of mind through repeated exposure and implementation.

Learn to always adapt to the positive change that is always taking place in your love affair. It will allow you to grow together through both the good times and bad. Like a garden, the more you tend to your relationship, the more it will grow…

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Love Facts unveiled

Love ranks among the most often discussed subject both online and offline. A simple search on the word “Love” will bring up 14 billion search results. Funny enough, there is no single definition of this ancient subject. It means different things to different persons. There are some amazing facts I’ll be sharing on this beautiful subject 

You got to Let go 

A rather sad thing about life is when you meet someone who means the world to you, only to discover at the end that it wasn’t meant to be. Like a dream, you got to wake up and let go. 

Love hurts 

It hurts to have a deep affection for someone and not to be loved in return. What is even more painful is to love someone and never have the courage or boldness to let the person know how you feel inside. 

Love is beyond the physical 

True love still exists and can be found even in the most common places. Deep affection is when you take away the feelings, the romance, the sex, and the passion away from the relationship, and you still discover you care for that person. 

Stop looking at the closed door 

There is always the possibility of heartbreaks when it comes to being fond of someone. However, when the door of affection slam closes, another opens, but oftentimes, we look so long at the closed door that we don’t see the one which has been opened for us. 

Don’t expect Love in return 

It is always natural to expect people to love you back after giving them all you got. Unfortunately, it may not work out the way you planned. Just wait for it to grow in the heart. But if it doesn’t, be content it grew in yours. 

Love sometimes comes from strange places

There are things you’ll wish to hear from the person you truly care about. Unfortunately, you may not hear these things. But don’t be too deaf as not to hear it from the one who says it from the heart! Love can be found in the most unlikely places. Amid unimaginable pains, we can always find happiness. Things may not always go the way we planned, but our kind spirits will surely experience beautiful moments.

Never say goodbye to the one you truly love 

The institution of marriage is not a tea party. It comes with great commitments and sacrifices. Never say goodbye if you still want to try. Don’t give up if you feel you can still go on. Why say you don’t care about a person anymore if you can’t go a day without thinking about the person. 

Love comes to the courageous 

In life like in relationships, there are ups and downs. There are moments of extreme pain and also beautiful moments filled with all we ever desired in life. Love comes to those who still hope, although they’ve been disappointed by past relationships. Those who still believe, though they’ve been betrayed by those who they once cherished. Some have been badly hurt, but like wounded soldiers, they still trudge on. Love always comes to those who have the courage and faith to build trust again! 

Don’t ever go for Looks

“The hearts expressions can never be found in the face”. Looks can be so secretive, so never you go for looks. Lots of people go for wealth, unfortunately, wealth can grow wings and fly away. Choose to go for someone who makes you smile always, because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seems bright. 

Broken hearts and shattered relationships

The subject of love and relationships is so sensitive, as several things need to be considered. Every relationship must be built on Love. Unfortunately, not everyone understands the concept of Love.  Love has no fixed definition, as it means different things to different people. I would, however, define love as the process whereby two different individuals express mutual feelings towards one another. This feeling may later culminate into marriage.

If you have ever fallen in love before, you will understand that love has to do with emotions and heart. I have seen partners fallen in and out of love. Two hearts that were one suddenly torn apart. How do you explain two friends who were in love suddenly becoming enemies? And the questions I kept on asking myself, was what went wrong? I cannot claim to have all the answers, but I am sharing some of my experience with the hope that they may unravel the mystery of broken hearts and broken relationships.

Unresolved relationships in the past 
When one of the parties still has an unresolved relationship in the past, this can create a lot of tension in the relationship and eventually lead to a breakup. I have seen cases where a partner still visits old boyfriends or girlfriends without the consent of the other partner. Some do it ignorantly while some still harbor a secret love for their ex.

Broken promises 
Promise are sacred and must be honored by partners in a relationship. Unfortunately, this is not often the case, as one or both of the partners can deliberately or unknowingly break a promise that was made in trust and confidence. One common feature under broken promises is the issue of lying to each other. Some individuals are perpetual liars and this can destroy a relationship faster than any other factor. Be true to each other and learn to keep promises made.

Misplaced priority 
I was once in a relationship with someone so dear to my heart. We both loved each other passionately. The relationship was going to the third year when I asked her certain questions about our future. Her response showed that our priorities were not the same. She had different plans while I was thinking of something else. This brought some tears and distraught, but we could not go ahead in the relationship because it was heading nowhere.

Insincerity 
This is the process whereby partners keep secrets from each other and are not 100% honest in their dealings. When any of the partners sense this unusual habit, it can create a serious crack in a relationship, which can eventually lead to its collapse. Any serious relationship must be built on sincerity, trust, and integrity.

Infidelity 
Not everyone can stomach the idea of seeing his/her partner sneaking around with other men or women. Where there is true love, infidelity cannot exist. Apart from the humiliation of seeing one’s partner messing around; it can also expose both partners to sexually transmitted diseases. The ability to be faithful to one partner will help build a solid bond of love that cannot be easily broken.

Immaturity 
One of the criteria for a lasting relationship is the ability of the partners to display maturity and understanding. Unfortunately, some jump into relationships unprepared, and they end up disappointed. Maturity is not all about age, as I have seen men who are more than 35 years old behaving like little kids. Maturity is a function of the mind and its ability to cope with pressure, stress, and difficulties. There is no perfect relationship on earth, and the sooner people realize this, the better for them. When a misunderstanding arises, partners must resolve it amicably without succumbing to external or peer pressure.

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