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Four practical ways to deal with a nagging spouse

Nagging can be defined as an incessant complaint by a partner about someone’s habit or behavioral pattern in a relationship. It is a common cause of most broken relationships. It can start with a salient or hushed remark about simple issues like food, dress, or housekeeping. The question is: “How then can one handle a nagging spouse”?

Show love and understanding

The more love you shower upon your spouse who is always nagging, the less frequent the occurrence of nagging. It, however, takes more than an effort to display love where nagging goes to the extreme. Love is like a stream that quenches the flame ignited by nagging. Love can forgive any wrongdoing on your person, no matter how severe it is. Life can be difficult sometimes especially with families and kids coming in. Things may not go exactly as you planned, and this may result in nagging from either partner, but it is very important that love and understanding be shown.

Open channels of communications

The urge is always strong to avoid direct contact with a nagging wife or husband. When partners no longer talk to each other due to the problem of nagging, it can escalate the entire issue and blow it out of proportion.

I have often seen couples who avoid each other for a lengthy period because of this single problem and at the end of the day; it becomes extremely difficult to reconcile both parties due to the enormous damage that has been inflicted. The more open both partners are, the easier it is to handle this negative attribute which is capable of destroying relationships.

Appreciate any positive progress made

When a partner makes any positive progress in a given area, it is good that appreciation should be extended. When an individual knows his/her effort to create a positive change is being noticed, it will aid total transformation and eliminate negative barriers.

It is not enough to complain about things your partner has failed to do, but also to appreciate the little things he/she does. It may sound childish, but it thus works wonders.

Never retaliate

There is always the temptation to retaliate when the issue of nagging crops up, but it is important to avoid falling into such temptations. The process of nagging creates a hurting effect in an individual and the best way to handle it is not to retaliate because two wrongs cannot make a right. Retaliation is a sign of immaturity and a lack of forgiveness.





relationship

Every Relationship have their ups and downs

How would you rate your relationship on a scale-out of 10?

Is there any room for improvement?

If your relationship is like most, then yea, there is room for improvement.

Even if you have experienced a lot of failed relationships in the past or struggling to rekindle the fires of romance in your current relationship, you can learn to stay connected, find fulfillment and enjoy lasting happiness. All romantic relationships go through ups and downs. They all require some level of commitment, respect, trust, loyalty, trust,  honesty, patience,  and a willingness to adapt and change with your partner to make it work.

At some point in our lives, we may believe that love should be like the kind of romance we see portrayed in movies,  television, and novels. Despite the claims of romantic fiction or movies, no one person can meet all your needs. Expecting too much from your partner can put unhealthy pressure on your relationship. If you are expecting to get what you want 100% in a relationship, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Healthy relationships are built on sacrifice. It takes a lot of work on each person’s part to have a healthy affair.

A great number of relationships often fall apart because of a lack of direct communication. When people stop communicating well, they stop relating well but as long as you are communicating you can work through whatever problems you are facing. Your partner is not a mind reader. It is much healthier to express your needs directly to avoid confusion. Your partner may sense something’s but it might not be what you need. What you needed and wanted some years ago for instance may be very different now. So, instead of letting resentment, misunderstanding, bitterness, or anger grow when your partner continually gets it wrong, develop the habit of telling them exactly what you need.

Conflict is inevitable in any relationship. Don’t start arguments over things that cannot be changed. Rather than looking to past conflicts or grudges and assigning blame, focus on what you can do to solve the problem. If you can’t agree, agree to disagree. It takes two people to keep an argument going. If a conflict is going nowhere, you can choose to disengage and move on. Always remember that you are arguing with the person you love.

You will not always be on the same page. Change is inevitable in life and it will happen in your relationship whether you go with it or not. Making a positive change does not need to be a complicated process. It just needs to be a consistent process where you progressively develop new habits of mind through repeated exposure and implementation.

Learn to always adapt to the positive change that is always taking place in your love affair. It will allow you to grow together through both the good times and bad. Like a garden, the more you tend to your relationship, the more it will grow…

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Love is a beautiful thing

It is difficult to define love because everyone’s perception of what love is can be dramatically different. Love is one of the most profound emotions we experience as humans. Any human interaction which will last a lifetime or a decade must be built on mutual love.  Though we can invite deep affection into our lives, we don’t have control over how, when, and where love starts to express itself.

We can feel the love in a variety of different ways: when we are sad, happy, confused, angry, or excited. Our attitude about love can range from affectionate love to infatuation and pleasure. Often, we use love as an action, as a force to keep our relationships with our partner, friends, and family together.

Because love takes on different forms, we can each experience love in our way, which is why defining the term love is so complicated. Love is so hard to define because it does not exist as one thing. We can feel affection for our spouse, parents, friends, children, pets, neighbors, nations, etc. How then do we define something so uncontrollable and versatile?

Love is a basic necessity in everyone’s life. Everyone needs to be loved to live a proper and healthy life. It is the glue that keeps a relationship strong and solid. It holds us all together and makes life worth living. Love is being someone’s strength and can be expressed through actions.

Love is always beautiful, if it is not, then it gives room for questions. You need to understand that your partner had a life before you entered. You cannot ask them to give it up the moment you entered.

They have their priorities. Your partner cannot give you attention 24/7.  Understand it, respect it. Do not expect them to change their schedule completely for you. A true relationship flourishes when partners are committed to behaving lovingly through continual, endless, and unconditional giving.

Love is not all about bliss. There will always be difficult moments. A person who truly loves you will always be with you through the rain and the sunshine. Someone who abandons you during a crisis doesn’t love you. You will not always agree with your partner.

Disagreement is common in a relationship. A healthy relationship will have disagreements at times. This is because as much as you have affection towards a person, both of you are different due to upbringing and perspectives.  Sometimes that is what makes life exciting.

One of the imperfections of love is not loving someone to the extent to which they treasure you. You should not settle where you are not loved, it is a tragic situation. A one-side love is more deadly than a cobra’s venom.

Tangling with someone who doesn’t have affection for you is risky. Also, do not let the heartache of the past imprison and hold you back from loving again because the affection you are craving for is waiting for you! Have a wonderful love life!!!

Love

Love can be seen in several ways

Love has been defined more than a thousand and one times, depending on the individual who is involved and the prevailing situation. In this article, I would not be attempting to add another definition of love, but rather to share some common features that can help those who are presently in a relationship know if their partner truly loves them.

Love is giving

That is the greatest act of love ever known to mankind. If someone says he/she loves you and never bothers to give something tangible as a seal of that love, be careful!

When we give of our time, resources, self, and gifts to the one we love, it goes a long way to cement such a relationship. Giving should not be restricted to only special occasions like birthdays, St. Valentine Day, Christmas, Easter, or New Year. It should be a way of life. A little flower or a carefully chosen card can be worth more than gold and silver in the life of a loved one.

Sacrificial

When someone is ready to sacrifice all he/she has, it is a true sign of affection. Some individuals are not ready to sacrifice one bit of themselves and they claim to have affection for their partners. What sacrifice means, is that you are willing to do anything to please someone. The opposite of sacrifice is selfishness, which can destroy any relationship.

Patience

No human being on earth is 100% perfect. That is the main reason why we must be patient with the one we love. In relationships and marriage, there is a need for patience. It is a virtue that can cover so many inadequacies in the life of the one you love.

Does not count wrong

When two individuals are in a relationship, there is bound to be a dispute. These things are not planned but can happen spontaneously due to one reason or the order. At such a moment, the test of true affection can be manifested by both parties, as there is a need to forgive and forget whatever wrong has been done.

Some individuals, however, fail to heed this clear advice and go about writing down every wrong their partners have done while waiting patiently for the perfect opportunity to expose all these faults. This is a sign that there is love lost between both parties.

Love is sharing

If an individual is stingy with whatever he or she has, that is not a sign of love. No matter how small it is, learn how to share it! It is common in some parts of the world to see people sharing food because it is generally regarded as a symbol of love. If your partner needs something which you have, one of the attributes or sign to show he/she loves is to share with you.

Love comes to those who still hope

Love comes to those who still hope

Juliet Smith spent fifteen years in a relationship that ultimately wasn’t right for her. She was stuck in it and couldn’t move out of it due to fear of the unknown. It hit her hard one day that she had to let it go. Alone in her home, she fell on the floor in tears, grieving and feeling the sting of fear that she will never find someone else that will love her; she will be alone for the rest of her life.

But she found the courage to get up, change her life and started doing things that gave her confidence, joy, and love and that was when she met her husband and they got married some months later.

No matter how long you’ve been hurt in the past, you probably still wonder when your soul mate will walk into your life. Why? Humans were wired to love. We were born to connect with others and share a deep emotional and physical bond. Love can hurt but it is also important for our well being.

Even if your life experiences have always ended up with more sad than happy moments. So discouraging, that you keep wondering about the possibility of finding love. There are always countless reasons to hang in there. Just because you had a failed relationship doesn’t mean that this will repeat infinitely into the future.

It is difficult to maintain a positive mindset after you go through a traumatic experience like a breakup. You can still find the courage to change all the negativity and bring some positivity in your life. With a positive mindset you can get over your hurt and be successful with someone who truly deserves you.

The first step to attract someone who will love you is to cultivate that within yourself. You cannot expect others to love you if you don’t even feel that way towards yourself. Just because a partner has ended a relationship does not mean you are unlovable or unworthy of their love. Rather than focusing on what you did wrong, focus instead on what you can do to make yourself feel better.

Efforts are never wasted even when it leads to disappointing results. It can make you wiser, better, stronger, and even happier in the long run. When things get tough and you are losing your head, be patient, and keep going.

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