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Accept yourself

Accept yourself the way you are

Accept yourself the way you are. It’s easier said than done, but  I love what Brennan Manning said: “When we accept ourselves for what we are, we decrease our hunger for power or the acceptance of others because our self-intimacy reinforces our inner sense of security. We are no longer preoccupied with being powerful or popular. We no longer fear criticism because we accept the reality of our human limitations. Once integrated, we are less often plagued with the desire to please others because simply being true to ourselves brings lasting peace. We are grateful for life and we deeply appreciate and love ourselves.”

The question is: Do you stand up for yourself when others discourage you? Have you given yourself the benefit of doubt in a difficult or confusing time? Is there the tendency to love yourself for who you are and not what others want you to be? Do you only cheer yourself on when you feel positive or accomplish external goals? These questions might sound odd after all, don’t we all accept ourselves as a regular part of living our daily lives?

Self-acceptance according to Merriam Webster dictionary is the act or state of understanding and recognizing one’s abilities and limitations. It is that ability to accept yourself as you are instead of how you wish you were or how you wish others perceived you. It can also mean the feeling of satisfaction with yourself despite your weaknesses and regardless of your past choices and behaviors.

Self-acceptance doesn’t mean that you accept what you are and will do nothing to change and improve. It does not mean accepting your life and fate as it is. Don’t you say to yourself that” this is what I am, I accept myself as I am? I accept my character, failings, mistakes, fate, and this how it is and I can do nothing about it. I cannot improve myself.”

Knowing yourself allows you to see what you can do to improve yourself and your life. Self-acceptance means that you see your mistakes, accept and acknowledge your present position, and then look for better ways to improve. This implies that you understand and accept your character and habits, stop comparing yourself and achievement to others, and acknowledging your skills or lack of them.

Note that acknowledging your good and bad habits and traits of character can alleviate feelings of anger, regret, dissatisfaction, bitterness, unhappiness, or resentment but it is not an excuse for staying as you are. You are you and that is something that is never going to change.

When you learn to accept yourself and work towards the best version of yourself that you can be, you set yourself up for a life that has an abundance of happiness and progress. Spend some time with yourself by engaging in enjoyable activities so that you can bond with yourself and fall in love with that person.

If you don’t love yourself you will never find the courage to dream. You will eventually lose valuable relationships and you will become dull and lifeless.

If what you are doing now is not working for you, then it is time to do things differently, to change the way you look at yourself. Time to stop the judgment and like yourself more.

Are you going through a financial crisis? Love yourself! Are you experiencing heartbreak at the moment? Love yourself!! Do you feel like giving up? Love yourself!!! Has life dealt you heavy blows and you can’t seem to get back up? Love yourself!!!! Are you separated from your spouse? Love yourself!!!  Learn to see your mistakes not as failures but as learning opportunities.

relationship

Every Relationship have their ups and downs

How would you rate your relationship on a scale-out of 10?

Is there any room for improvement?

If your relationship is like most, then yea, there is room for improvement.

Even if you have experienced a lot of failed relationships in the past or struggling to rekindle the fires of romance in your current relationship, you can learn to stay connected, find fulfillment and enjoy lasting happiness. All romantic relationships go through ups and downs. They all require some level of commitment, respect, trust, loyalty, trust,  honesty, patience,  and a willingness to adapt and change with your partner to make it work.

At some point in our lives, we may believe that love should be like the kind of romance we see portrayed in movies,  television, and novels. Despite the claims of romantic fiction or movies, no one person can meet all your needs. Expecting too much from your partner can put unhealthy pressure on your relationship. If you are expecting to get what you want 100% in a relationship, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Healthy relationships are built on sacrifice. It takes a lot of work on each person’s part to have a healthy affair.

A great number of relationships often fall apart because of a lack of direct communication. When people stop communicating well, they stop relating well but as long as you are communicating you can work through whatever problems you are facing. Your partner is not a mind reader. It is much healthier to express your needs directly to avoid confusion. Your partner may sense something’s but it might not be what you need. What you needed and wanted some years ago for instance may be very different now. So, instead of letting resentment, misunderstanding, bitterness, or anger grow when your partner continually gets it wrong, develop the habit of telling them exactly what you need.

Conflict is inevitable in any relationship. Don’t start arguments over things that cannot be changed. Rather than looking to past conflicts or grudges and assigning blame, focus on what you can do to solve the problem. If you can’t agree, agree to disagree. It takes two people to keep an argument going. If a conflict is going nowhere, you can choose to disengage and move on. Always remember that you are arguing with the person you love.

You will not always be on the same page. Change is inevitable in life and it will happen in your relationship whether you go with it or not. Making a positive change does not need to be a complicated process. It just needs to be a consistent process where you progressively develop new habits of mind through repeated exposure and implementation.

Learn to always adapt to the positive change that is always taking place in your love affair. It will allow you to grow together through both the good times and bad. Like a garden, the more you tend to your relationship, the more it will grow…

entrepreneur

An Entrepreneur needs these 7 Qualities

Although every entrepreneur is unique and positively endowed in terms of gifts, talents, and abilities, however, some entrepreneurs possess some exceptional qualities which stand them apart from the average business owner. Highlighted below are some of the qualities that can make a difference in the life of an entrepreneur:

Positive Mindset

To succeed in life, one must have the ability to be optimistic. Optimism is the ability to think of possibility even in the face of failure and defeat. A positive minded entrepreneur is always searching for a solution to a problem. This unique quality gives the entrepreneur an edge over the average business owner.

Goal Setters

The ability to set and achieve a goal is another unique characteristic of a business person. Setting daily, monthly and yearly goals is a priority in the life of an entrepreneur. These goals are a great source of motivation and incentive.

Focus

The success of every entrepreneur depends largely on the ability to focus on the essential things in life. It is only when one can focus on life, that one can have the rare ability to concentrate on issues that are key to the attainment of the desired end. This unique characteristic is present in the life of every entrepreneur.

Determination

This is the ability to remain committed to a course or goal. If you are determined, procrastination will never be a problem. Determination is a virtue that keeps a business person on alert. it is like a prime mover in the wheel of the entrepreneur as the ability to venture into areas where others are afraid to go is made available.

Passion

There must be a desire and a burning passion inside of you before you can obtain whatever you need in life. If you are passionate about success, it is a sign that you are on the right track. Having a passion for something will give you the extra energy to continue when others have given up. It is what keeps you awake at night when others are busy sleeping.

Foresight

This is the ability to envision the result of plans and proposals earmarked for the achievement of the desired goal. A business person can see profit where others are seeing losses. Foresight will enable the entrepreneur to make a sound decision and set distinct goals.

Creativity

What distinguishes an exceptional entrepreneur from the average business owner is the ability to come up with new ways of doing things. They are creative and unusual in their thinking pattern. One thing that they have going for them, is the ability to implement these creative ideas. Fear of failure does not hinder them from achieving their set goals and desires.

Love comes to those who still hope

Love comes to those who still hope

Juliet Smith spent fifteen years in a relationship that ultimately wasn’t right for her. She was stuck in it and couldn’t move out of it due to fear of the unknown. It hit her hard one day that she had to let it go. Alone in her home, she fell on the floor in tears, grieving and feeling the sting of fear that she will never find someone else that will love her; she will be alone for the rest of her life.

But she found the courage to get up, change her life and started doing things that gave her confidence, joy, and love and that was when she met her husband and they got married some months later.

No matter how long you’ve been hurt in the past, you probably still wonder when your soul mate will walk into your life. Why? Humans were wired to love. We were born to connect with others and share a deep emotional and physical bond. Love can hurt but it is also important for our well being.

Even if your life experiences have always ended up with more sad than happy moments. So discouraging, that you keep wondering about the possibility of finding love. There are always countless reasons to hang in there. Just because you had a failed relationship doesn’t mean that this will repeat infinitely into the future.

It is difficult to maintain a positive mindset after you go through a traumatic experience like a breakup. You can still find the courage to change all the negativity and bring some positivity in your life. With a positive mindset you can get over your hurt and be successful with someone who truly deserves you.

The first step to attract someone who will love you is to cultivate that within yourself. You cannot expect others to love you if you don’t even feel that way towards yourself. Just because a partner has ended a relationship does not mean you are unlovable or unworthy of their love. Rather than focusing on what you did wrong, focus instead on what you can do to make yourself feel better.

Efforts are never wasted even when it leads to disappointing results. It can make you wiser, better, stronger, and even happier in the long run. When things get tough and you are losing your head, be patient, and keep going.

Fighting gracefully against all odds

Fighting gracefully against all odds

One of my favorite quotes comes from an ancient philosopher. He had a clear knowledge of what it looks like going through life challenges. Hear what he had to say: “Be Kind. For everyone you meet is Fighting a Battle you know nothing about”

This amazing quote had changed my perspective about life and how I look at others going through one challenge or the other. You can never tell because of some smile through the pains. You can only see the beautiful face, but deep within is a raging battle.

For the beautiful Lilac, her battle started when she was just 34 weeks old. She had to be placed on life support after she contracted Sepsis and her organs started shutting down. It was a battle for survival, but the charming Lilac was up for the Fight.

Not long after, she was discharged from hospital and everyone thought she had won the battle, but how wrong we can be at times. It was never to be, as Lilac was diagnosed with Spastic Diplegia Cerebral Palsy at eight months old.

It would have been too much a battle for some, but not the brave Lilac. She came out fighting courageously. Her story is an inspiration to be shared across the world. The story of courage, strength, tenacity, joy, and happiness.

She walked against all odds

The initial prognosis was that Lilac could not walk. It was a devastating blow to the parents, but one beautiful thing I have come to learn about life is the fact that when we are determined to chase after our dreams, nothing can stop us.

Lilac was fighting with all of her might to walk. Her beautiful spirit was too strong to be held back. Daily physiotherapy sessions were done, to strengthen her pretty legs. Each new day brought positive results as she learned how to walk by herself

Charming smiles always

Lilac was never weighed down by her troubles. Watching her kid brother running around and she looking helplessly without being able to join, maybe a bit tough for 3 years old. But she had a beautiful dream. A dream that kept a beautiful smile on her face.

Her desire to keep fighting until she can walk independently has always kept her going. There is presently a fundraising page at Just Giving to help her achieve her dream. Her beautiful spirit has always been kept strong by the support of family and friends.

She presently has access to a hot tub which soothes her tired legs after a long walk, but she keeps smiling always. Making use of walkers and other walking aids to build her leg stamina is currently in progress.

The future is bright

When we never stop fighting, there is always the possibility of getting to our destination in life. For the beautiful Lilac, her tremendous progress over the last couple of months has been amazing. The future is bright, as there is a huge possibility she would walk unaided very soon. She was born a warrior and warriors always fight till the very end.

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