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Love is a beautiful thing

It is difficult to define love because everyone’s perception of what love is can be dramatically different. Love is one of the most profound emotions we experience as humans. Any human interaction which will last a lifetime or a decade must be built on mutual love.  Though we can invite deep affection into our lives, we don’t have control over how, when, and where love starts to express itself.

We can feel the love in a variety of different ways: when we are sad, happy, confused, angry, or excited. Our attitude about love can range from affectionate love to infatuation and pleasure. Often, we use love as an action, as a force to keep our relationships with our partner, friends, and family together.

Because love takes on different forms, we can each experience love in our way, which is why defining the term love is so complicated. Love is so hard to define because it does not exist as one thing. We can feel affection for our spouse, parents, friends, children, pets, neighbors, nations, etc. How then do we define something so uncontrollable and versatile?

Love is a basic necessity in everyone’s life. Everyone needs to be loved to live a proper and healthy life. It is the glue that keeps a relationship strong and solid. It holds us all together and makes life worth living. Love is being someone’s strength and can be expressed through actions.

Love is always beautiful, if it is not, then it gives room for questions. You need to understand that your partner had a life before you entered. You cannot ask them to give it up the moment you entered.

They have their priorities. Your partner cannot give you attention 24/7.  Understand it, respect it. Do not expect them to change their schedule completely for you. A true relationship flourishes when partners are committed to behaving lovingly through continual, endless, and unconditional giving.

Love is not all about bliss. There will always be difficult moments. A person who truly loves you will always be with you through the rain and the sunshine. Someone who abandons you during a crisis doesn’t love you. You will not always agree with your partner.

Disagreement is common in a relationship. A healthy relationship will have disagreements at times. This is because as much as you have affection towards a person, both of you are different due to upbringing and perspectives.  Sometimes that is what makes life exciting.

One of the imperfections of love is not loving someone to the extent to which they treasure you. You should not settle where you are not loved, it is a tragic situation. A one-side love is more deadly than a cobra’s venom.

Tangling with someone who doesn’t have affection for you is risky. Also, do not let the heartache of the past imprison and hold you back from loving again because the affection you are craving for is waiting for you! Have a wonderful love life!!!

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Is Love truly blind?

 

Introduction

Love is a beautiful thing! It is this special feeling that you have for someone that makes you see them differently from others. But, falling in love in modern times has become more complicated because too many people are in love without understanding the idea of being love which can lead to just a fling.

So often, we lose our sight, common sense, and everything that makes us normal and become dysfunctional while we profess to be in love. We have read stories or seen cases of people who are deeply in love ending up killing their partners, some suffer from depression, while others are betrayed.

Love according to the urban dictionary is the act of caring, and giving to someone else, having someone’s best interest and well-being as a priority in your life. If we are to go with this definition, the question we need to ask ourselves is this: “IS LOVE TRULY BLIND”?

Before answering this question, let’s look at the phases involved in a love relationship. According to American Author and public speaker, Anthony Robbins, there are three phases involved in love process.

The Lusting stage

 The first phase is the lusting phase.  It is easy to block out any character flaw at this phase because the relationship just started. At this stage, you are just too excited to be in the hands of your partner and to make them happy. All that matters to you is just to be happy.

The heart stage

The second phase is the blind or heart phase. This is when you are deeply in love and everything your partner does is right. This is where the term ‘love is blind’ comes from. You are blinded by love and cannot see any of your lover’s flaws. Not seeing the bad traits in your partner no matter how obvious it is. Always doing everything within your power to make your partner happy without thinking about the consequences. It is when you take decision base on your emotion, not logic. At this stage, you are trying to make the relationship perfect.

Logic Stage

The third phase is the logic phase. This is the stage whereby those things you think that doesn’t matter in the previous stages now becomes an issue of concern to you. The ideas that you have made up in your mind about how your partner should behave, what your relationship should be like, and what you deserve have completely overtaken all the positive emotions you had before when your love was still blind. The flaws are no longer cute but have become an annoyance over time.

Having demystified the phases involved in love relationships lets now go back to our initial question:  “is love truly blind”? The answer is NO. The reason is that love is genuine. It is something you do with your mind and not blindly. It is a desire for someone to be part of your life! Love is not blind. The moment people recover from their blindness, they see the flaws of the lover which had been there from the onset.

 

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