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Four practical ways to deal with a nagging spouse

Nagging can be defined as an incessant complaint by a partner about someone’s habit or behavioral pattern in a relationship. It is a common cause of most broken relationships. It can start with a salient or hushed remark about simple issues like food, dress, or housekeeping. The question is: “How then can one handle a nagging spouse”?

Show love and understanding

The more love you shower upon your spouse who is always nagging, the less frequent the occurrence of nagging. It, however, takes more than an effort to display love where nagging goes to the extreme. Love is like a stream that quenches the flame ignited by nagging. Love can forgive any wrongdoing on your person, no matter how severe it is. Life can be difficult sometimes especially with families and kids coming in. Things may not go exactly as you planned, and this may result in nagging from either partner, but it is very important that love and understanding be shown.

Open channels of communications

The urge is always strong to avoid direct contact with a nagging wife or husband. When partners no longer talk to each other due to the problem of nagging, it can escalate the entire issue and blow it out of proportion.

I have often seen couples who avoid each other for a lengthy period because of this single problem and at the end of the day; it becomes extremely difficult to reconcile both parties due to the enormous damage that has been inflicted. The more open both partners are, the easier it is to handle this negative attribute which is capable of destroying relationships.

Appreciate any positive progress made

When a partner makes any positive progress in a given area, it is good that appreciation should be extended. When an individual knows his/her effort to create a positive change is being noticed, it will aid total transformation and eliminate negative barriers.

It is not enough to complain about things your partner has failed to do, but also to appreciate the little things he/she does. It may sound childish, but it thus works wonders.

Never retaliate

There is always the temptation to retaliate when the issue of nagging crops up, but it is important to avoid falling into such temptations. The process of nagging creates a hurting effect in an individual and the best way to handle it is not to retaliate because two wrongs cannot make a right. Retaliation is a sign of immaturity and a lack of forgiveness.





haters

Haters don’t determine who we are: Ignore them

Haters are individuals who use negative words, critical comments, and behavior to bring others down by making them look or feel bad. These hurtful and negative comments can be delivered in person, online, or texts.

It doesn’t matter how you choose to live your life; whether you build a business or work a corporate job, have children or choose not to, married or not yet married, travel the world or live in a small town all your life, fat or slim, go to the gym all week or sit on the couch all day, whatever you do, someone will always be a hater. People will always find a reason to project their insecurities, fears, and negativity onto your life and you will have to deal with it.

People might tell you that your business, career, relationship, marriage will never succeed or that you will never accomplish your goals. Worrying about their opinions of you will only make you worse off. Letting others control your thoughts and actions just so they will like you is no way to live life unless you want to be a robot.

We cannot get everyone to like us. Learning to accept that not everyone is going to like you will enable you to focus your attention on working to become a better person. Don’t let haters bring you down, they have no idea of what you are capable of achieving. Ignore their words or let it fuel your motivation.

What someone says about you does not define who you are. His or her opinion of you does not determine your self-worth. You don’t have to win their approval let it go and just be the best person you can be. Haters will always be there. Anyone on the journey to success has them and must know how to remain motivated despite the discouragement and criticism of people.

What you should understand is that these people are telling you what they think about themselves not you. So if they tell you that building your dream business, career or relationship is impossible, this is what they believe for themselves not you. 

They are simply projecting their own belief onto you and you have nothing to do with it. Haters don’t hate you. They hate themselves because you are a reflection of what they wish to be!! 

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