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Four practical ways to deal with a nagging spouse

Nagging can be defined as an incessant complaint by a partner about someone’s habit or behavioral pattern in a relationship. It is a common cause of most broken relationships. It can start with a salient or hushed remark about simple issues like food, dress, or housekeeping. The question is: “How then can one handle a nagging spouse”?

Show love and understanding

The more love you shower upon your spouse who is always nagging, the less frequent the occurrence of nagging. It, however, takes more than an effort to display love where nagging goes to the extreme. Love is like a stream that quenches the flame ignited by nagging. Love can forgive any wrongdoing on your person, no matter how severe it is. Life can be difficult sometimes especially with families and kids coming in. Things may not go exactly as you planned, and this may result in nagging from either partner, but it is very important that love and understanding be shown.

Open channels of communications

The urge is always strong to avoid direct contact with a nagging wife or husband. When partners no longer talk to each other due to the problem of nagging, it can escalate the entire issue and blow it out of proportion.

I have often seen couples who avoid each other for a lengthy period because of this single problem and at the end of the day; it becomes extremely difficult to reconcile both parties due to the enormous damage that has been inflicted. The more open both partners are, the easier it is to handle this negative attribute which is capable of destroying relationships.

Appreciate any positive progress made

When a partner makes any positive progress in a given area, it is good that appreciation should be extended. When an individual knows his/her effort to create a positive change is being noticed, it will aid total transformation and eliminate negative barriers.

It is not enough to complain about things your partner has failed to do, but also to appreciate the little things he/she does. It may sound childish, but it thus works wonders.

Never retaliate

There is always the temptation to retaliate when the issue of nagging crops up, but it is important to avoid falling into such temptations. The process of nagging creates a hurting effect in an individual and the best way to handle it is not to retaliate because two wrongs cannot make a right. Retaliation is a sign of immaturity and a lack of forgiveness.





Our Journey in Life is too short

We are all on a journey on earth. The journey takes us through several phases in life. We fall and rise at each point of our beautiful journey in life. Sometimes we get to meet lovely people who make our transition along the path of life pleasurable.

Several years ago, a beautiful young lady sat on a bus. She was travelling to see her mum in a nearby city. At the next stop, a loud and grumpy old lady came and sat by her. She squeezed into the seat and bumped her with her numerous bags.

The person sitting on the other side of the young lady got upset and asked her why she did not speak up and say something. The young lady responded with a smile: “It is not necessary to be rude or argue over something so insignificant, the journey together is so short. I will be getting off at the next stop”. This response deserves to be written in golden letters: “It is not necessary to argue over something so insignificant, our journey together is so short”

If each one of us realized that our time here on earth is so short; that to darken it with quarrels, futile arguments, not forgiving others, discontentment and a fault-finding attitude would be a waste of time and energy.

Did someone break your heart? Be calm, the journey is so short. Did someone betray, bully, cheat or humiliate you? Be calm and forgive such a one, the journey is so short. Whatever troubles anyone brings us, let us remember that our journey together is so short. No one knows the duration of this beautiful journey. No one knows when their stop will come. Our journey together is so short.

Let us cherish friends and family. Let us be respectful, kind, and forgiving to each other. Let us be filled with gratitude and gladness. Smile,  laugh, dance, play, relax, joke and stop being serious about everything, let go of anger. Failure to do so only hurts you. The other person is moving on with life while you hold grudges.

In Life, we would always come across the good, bad and ugly. In all we do, let us learn to be kind, because everyone we meet is fighting a hard battle. Some may hide theirs with a smile. Others use beautiful makeups to brighten their inner hurt.

Our heart should always be ready to forgive another, for there dwells the secret of true happiness. Leave a lovely footprint in the sand of time. Become a beautiful memory in the heart of those you come across daily. After all, our journey together is so short!

Love

Love can be seen in several ways

Love has been defined more than a thousand and one times, depending on the individual who is involved and the prevailing situation. In this article, I would not be attempting to add another definition of love, but rather to share some common features that can help those who are presently in a relationship know if their partner truly loves them.

Love is giving

That is the greatest act of love ever known to mankind. If someone says he/she loves you and never bothers to give something tangible as a seal of that love, be careful!

When we give of our time, resources, self, and gifts to the one we love, it goes a long way to cement such a relationship. Giving should not be restricted to only special occasions like birthdays, St. Valentine Day, Christmas, Easter, or New Year. It should be a way of life. A little flower or a carefully chosen card can be worth more than gold and silver in the life of a loved one.

Sacrificial

When someone is ready to sacrifice all he/she has, it is a true sign of affection. Some individuals are not ready to sacrifice one bit of themselves and they claim to have affection for their partners. What sacrifice means, is that you are willing to do anything to please someone. The opposite of sacrifice is selfishness, which can destroy any relationship.

Patience

No human being on earth is 100% perfect. That is the main reason why we must be patient with the one we love. In relationships and marriage, there is a need for patience. It is a virtue that can cover so many inadequacies in the life of the one you love.

Does not count wrong

When two individuals are in a relationship, there is bound to be a dispute. These things are not planned but can happen spontaneously due to one reason or the order. At such a moment, the test of true affection can be manifested by both parties, as there is a need to forgive and forget whatever wrong has been done.

Some individuals, however, fail to heed this clear advice and go about writing down every wrong their partners have done while waiting patiently for the perfect opportunity to expose all these faults. This is a sign that there is love lost between both parties.

Love is sharing

If an individual is stingy with whatever he or she has, that is not a sign of love. No matter how small it is, learn how to share it! It is common in some parts of the world to see people sharing food because it is generally regarded as a symbol of love. If your partner needs something which you have, one of the attributes or sign to show he/she loves is to share with you.

Ignore the haters

Ignore the haters

Someone once described haters as “people who whisper your success, but broadcast your failure”. They are always there no matter how you try to shake them off. Don’t even attempt to please them, because the more you do, the more they would keep hating on you.

Those who aren’t successful in life, don’t have issues with haters, because they are already down. The focus is always on those who aspire to achieve their dreams and goals in life. The more successful you are in life, the more the hate.

Eight years ago, when I bought my first call, not all my friends were happy with me. Some secretly envied me and with envy came hatred. It got worse when I started making real progress in my career.

How I dealt with haters

I focused on those who are happy to have me around and ignored the haters. This has worked quite well for me, because the more I ignore them, the quicker they disappeared. They realized that I wasn’t ready to take their hate seriously, and so they gave up hating on me.

Don’t get distracted

It is easier to get distracted when people say hurtful words about us. A young lady who was in an abusive relationship and had grown to hate herself shared her experience. “Each day was like hell on earth. I tried all I could to please him, but the more I did, the more he hated me. I felt I was not good enough. At a point, I had to break up with him, when the abuse was affecting me emotionally.

Those were the most difficult periods of my life. I became overweight, as I wasn’t watching my diet anymore. When I left Dave, I did all I could to gain back my confidence. It was a real struggle because I had almost lost everything. My self-worth was all gone. I had zero self-confidence and I was standing at the very edge of a mental breakdown.

Relocating to a new city and finding a new job gave me a fresh lease of life. It was like a heavy burden had been lifted off my fragile shoulder. For once I was getting my groove back and I loved it. The bad energy was all gone and I was able to make new friends.

Two years after, I fell in love with someone whom I refer to as my sunshine. He erased all the hate toxins that David had deposited in me. I realized that life always gives us a second chance to become who we truly want to become in life. Love triumphed over hate and I was the happiest soul that ever lived”

Never pay evil with evil

There is always the temptation to hate those who hate you. Unfortunately, that may not be the right approach. Like Martin Luther, King Jnr said: “Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that

We must always find a way to forgive those who hate without reason. Love them and always find a place in your heart to forgive them. Hopefully, they would see a reason to stop hating and start loving.

Get Inspired by hate

Some call them haters, but I would prefer to call them motivators. Let the actions of the few that hate you push you to greater heights. Keep using the stone of hate thrown at you, to build a platform that will inspire you towards your goals in life.

On the 14th of October 2019, Bulgaria hosted England in a Euro 2020 Qualifier. The match was almost marred with monkey chants each time England winger Raheem Sterling was on the ball. Raheem refused to allow racial abuse to weigh him down. It rather motivated him to put in his best performance in the color of England. He went ahead to score a brace, as England thumped Bulgaria 6-0.

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