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Loneliness kills faster than poverty

Loneliness is a state of been alone and feeling dejected and abandoned. It is a feeling of needing a company when you feel insecure or emotionally troubled. Funny enough, you can be in the midst of friends, family, and colleagues, but yet feel lonely and lost.

The renowned Catholic nun, Mother Teresa shared her thoughts about loneliness: “The most terrible poverty is loneliness and the feeling of being unloved.” The truth about feeling lonely and dejected is the fact that we are currently living in very peculiar times. People aren’t bothered anymore about the pains and the challenges their next-door neighbor may be going through.

Modern civilization has created a huge gap in the way people relate to each other. The social media craze has worsened the already bad situation, as the desire to please and be accepted by the society has made lots of people to lose their identity.

People now choose to create a false lifestyle in a bid to be accepted by those they feel are doing better than them. When expectations aren’t met, loneliness and depression inadvertently set in. Loneliness is a silent killer because its effect is not readily visible. It eats so deep and quiet until the individual eventually gives up in life.

One of the most obvious signs of our broken world is the feeling of isolation among individuals. We can be in a sports stadium with 100,000 other people, feeling a sense of solidarity because we are rooting for the home team, but when we get in the car to go home, loneliness hits us. Our internet culture does not allow for the human interaction needed to break through our lonesomeness.

The figures for those going through different stages of depression worldwide have skyrocketed in the last decade, even as the suicide rate has been on the increase. The WHO estimates that more than 300 million people of all ages suffer from depression worldwide.

Overall, more women suffer from depression than men. The sad reality is the harsh economic situation globally, which has not helped ease the burden on individuals who have been forced to find a means to stay strong even in the face of insurmountable challenges.

What kills people the most, is not the state of being lonely, it is the realization that nobody cares. You feel useless and lifeless. That is the pure definition of loneliness. Loneliness corners you at night and starts eating away at every fabric of happiness in your being. What’s left is a void, that too deep to be filled. It leaves in its wake depression and pain, which eventually leads to death.

To buttress how serious the issue of loneliness is, the United Kingdom in 2018, appointed a Minister of Loneliness. Tracey Crouch has been given the mandate to help stem the tide of loneliness that is prevalent in the UK.

The 42 years old has experience loneliness and would be using her wealth of experience to great effect in the fight to help individuals become better and more productive in life and career. Indeed, poverty truly kills, but loneliness has been known to kill even more!

It's a lonely world out there

It’s a lonely world out there

The most terrible poverty is loneliness and the feeling of being unloved”… Mother Teresa.

There is no word to describe the feeling of been lonely. You may be in the midst of hundreds of friends,  but it’s still possible to feel empty inside. None may understand what you going through.

The modern world has evolved rapidly with the advent of mobile gadgets and social media platforms, that people stay glued to their phones or laptops and rarely bother about those around them.

Five years ago, a young lady committed suicide after going through some difficult phase in her academics. She was struggling so badly, that her grades dropped in her second year. Her Dad made the situation even worse when he scolded her and made reference to her friends that were doing better than her.

Anita began to withdraw from friends and family members. She felt humiliated, hated, and unloved. Her mental state was becoming unstable. She rarely came out from her room, and nobody bothered to ask how she’s doing. Everyone was glued to the phone or television.

Every individual has a certain limit of endurance. For Anita, her entire world got shattered when she was asked to withdraw from school due to her poor grades. She couldn’t take it anymore. Three days later, she took an overdose of opioids. Nobody noticed what had happened until it was too late.

It is a lonely world out there and it’s even getting colder with each passing day. There’s an increasing number of people going through depression. The World Health Organization (WHO) estimates more than 300 million people suffer from depression worldwide. The number keeps increasing as crime rates, poverty, war, unemployment, and other complex issues keep tearing people apart.

“The greatest disease in the West today is not TB or leprosy; it is being unwanted, unloved, and uncared for. We can cure physical diseases with medicine, but the only cure for loneliness, despair, and hopelessness is love. Many in the world are dying for a piece of bread but there are many more dying for a little love”

Sadly, geographical location doesn’t determine the possibility of experiencing loneliness. The rich, the poor, the educated, and uneducated all experience loneliness.
People mask their loneliness with beautiful smiles and lovely makeups. Unfortunately, in their quiet moments when they are alone.

The pain of being lonely haunts them. It’s a dark world filled with painful memories. I’ve been there and I know how it hurts. People pretend they love you when it’s rosy and good. The moment everything falls apart and things aren’t working as planned. You soon realized it’s you against the world. Doesn’t matter your religion, color, race, or status.

It’s a lonely world when there’s no one to share every sorrow and pain. Sometimes, the sunshine comes to brighten up your day, but it never stays forever. The cold reality of being alone soon hitting you so hard.

Failure is not the end of your story

Failure is not the end of your story

We all have experienced setbacks in life, businesses, careers, relationships in one way or another. Some people are depressed right now because they gave their best to something and in the end, it failed.

The only thing going through their mind is that they have done the best they could therefore nothing else can be done and attempting such thing again will only be a waste of time and energy accompanied by another set of heartbreaks that will result in depression once again.

The failure you experience is the beginning of your success story. Nothing good comes easy in life. Things that carry great substance are not cheap to come by. Why then do we easily give up?

When you fail, have a positive mindset towards that situation. Failure allows you to do it better, the opportunity to know how best to do it when you get there again. Remember that, you must not fall before you rise but if you fail, make use of the opportunity to get better.

Jack Ma, the former CEO of Alibaba Group, failed several times before becoming a billionaire. He is one of the richest men in China. He failed at almost everything he attempted from education to career to entrepreneurship.

He failed his middle school examination thrice, got into Hangzhou Normal University in his third attempt, all his ten admission attempt to Harvard University were rejected. He was unable to get a job after graduating from university.

Jack applied for thirty different jobs and got rejected by all and his first two business ventures collapsed. In an interview at the Davos world economic forum, he said ” when KFC came to my city, twenty-four people went for the job. Twenty-three people were accepted I was the only guy who was rejected.” However, that did not deter him from visualizing and founding Alibaba.

Nobody in this world chooses to fail but everyone tastes the bitter pill at some point in their lives. Success comes through rapidly fixing our mistakes rather than getting things right the first time. Every failure is not a winner, but every winner is the output of several failed experiences that culminated in success.

Failure serves as a mirror at each end of our life. It reveals our weakness, strengths, and helps in demonstrating ourselves by strengthing our effects. As Einstein said, ” just because a fish cannot climb a tree doesn’t mean its not smart.” The end is not when you fail, it is when you quit. Never lose faith. Never lose hope and never give up!!!

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