Juliet Smith spent fifteen years in a relationship that ultimately wasn’t right for her. She was stuck in it and couldn’t move out of it due to fear of the unknown. It hit her hard one day that she had to let it go. Alone in her home, she fell on the floor in tears, grieving and feeling the sting of fear that she will never find someone else that will love her; she will be alone for the rest of her life.

But she found the courage to get up, change her life and started doing things that gave her confidence, joy, and love and that was when she met her husband and they got married some months later.

No matter how long you’ve been hurt in the past, you probably still wonder when your soul mate will walk into your life. Why? Humans were wired to love. We were born to connect with others and share a deep emotional and physical bond. Love can hurt but it is also important for our well being.

Even if your life experiences have always ended up with more sad than happy moments. So discouraging, that you keep wondering about the possibility of finding love. There are always countless reasons to hang in there. Just because you had a failed relationship doesn’t mean that this will repeat infinitely into the future.

It is difficult to maintain a positive mindset after you go through a traumatic experience like a breakup. You can still find the courage to change all the negativity and bring some positivity in your life. With a positive mindset you can get over your hurt and be successful with someone who truly deserves you.

The first step to attract someone who will love you is to cultivate that within yourself. You cannot expect others to love you if you don’t even feel that way towards yourself. Just because a partner has ended a relationship does not mean you are unlovable or unworthy of their love. Rather than focusing on what you did wrong, focus instead on what you can do to make yourself feel better.

Efforts are never wasted even when it leads to disappointing results. It can make you wiser, better, stronger, and even happier in the long run. When things get tough and you are losing your head, be patient, and keep going.