Nagging can be defined as an incessant complaint by a partner about someone’s habit or behavioral pattern in a relationship. It is a common cause of most broken relationships. It can start with a salient or hushed remark about simple issues like food, dress, or housekeeping. The question is: “How then can one handle a nagging spouse”?

Show love and understanding

The more love you shower upon your spouse who is always nagging, the less frequent the occurrence of nagging. It, however, takes more than an effort to display love where nagging goes to the extreme. Love is like a stream that quenches the flame ignited by nagging. Love can forgive any wrongdoing on your person, no matter how severe it is. Life can be difficult sometimes especially with families and kids coming in. Things may not go exactly as you planned, and this may result in nagging from either partner, but it is very important that love and understanding be shown.

Open channels of communications

The urge is always strong to avoid direct contact with a nagging wife or husband. When partners no longer talk to each other due to the problem of nagging, it can escalate the entire issue and blow it out of proportion.

I have often seen couples who avoid each other for a lengthy period because of this single problem and at the end of the day; it becomes extremely difficult to reconcile both parties due to the enormous damage that has been inflicted. The more open both partners are, the easier it is to handle this negative attribute which is capable of destroying relationships.

Appreciate any positive progress made

When a partner makes any positive progress in a given area, it is good that appreciation should be extended. When an individual knows his/her effort to create a positive change is being noticed, it will aid total transformation and eliminate negative barriers.

It is not enough to complain about things your partner has failed to do, but also to appreciate the little things he/she does. It may sound childish, but it thus works wonders.

Never retaliate

There is always the temptation to retaliate when the issue of nagging crops up, but it is important to avoid falling into such temptations. The process of nagging creates a hurting effect in an individual and the best way to handle it is not to retaliate because two wrongs cannot make a right. Retaliation is a sign of immaturity and a lack of forgiveness.