....Inspired beyond boundaries

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Mamus Cherish is an experienced content creator, inspirational speaker, and relationship coach with a passion for helping individuals to actualize their dreams in life.

Every day

Make every day your best day

How do you feel about your life today?

Are you living every day in excitement?

Do you love what you are doing presently?

Are you looking forward to what is coming up next?

Are you living your best life?

If your answer to any of the above questions is a No, it means you are not living your life to the fullest. You deserve nothing but the best!!

Each day we wake up, what we have before us is a new opportunity, a blank slate that we can fill with whatever we choose. We are in total control of what we achieve each day. Do not be held back by what happened yesterday, the day before, the week before, the year before, or even decades ago rather, live in the present moments.

Do not spend your time trying to be someone that you are not. Work towards becoming who you want to be and stop living your life based on the ideas of other people. Start to take charge of your day and use every minute to better yourself.

There is no need to live a life that you’re not happy about. Nobody is going to get you to the life that you want. It is up to you to work for it and achieve it. It is high time you start living the life that you see every time you close your eyes.

 It is never too late to choose your dreams and achieve them. No matter how old you are, it is achievable, as long as you follow your dreams. Never be too comfortable living a life you never wanted.

No matter how bad you might have screwed things up in the past, no matter how far you have gotten from what you want to do, you can always turn things around. With a change of attitude, you can enjoy satisfying, wonderful, and beautiful days by making small changes in your daily life.

It all begins from the very moment you decide to make every day the best day of your life. It’s your life. It is possible to become what you ever dreamed to become in life. You are in charge and you have every right to live it to the fullest!

Failure is not the end of your story

Failure is not the end of your story

We all have experienced setbacks in life, businesses, careers, relationships in one way or another. Some people are depressed right now because they gave their best to something and in the end, it failed.

The only thing going through their mind is that they have done the best they could therefore nothing else can be done and attempting such thing again will only be a waste of time and energy accompanied by another set of heartbreaks that will result in depression once again.

The failure you experience is the beginning of your success story. Nothing good comes easy in life. Things that carry great substance are not cheap to come by. Why then do we easily give up?

When you fail, have a positive mindset towards that situation. Failure allows you to do it better, the opportunity to know how best to do it when you get there again. Remember that, you must not fall before you rise but if you fail, make use of the opportunity to get better.

Jack Ma, the former CEO of Alibaba Group, failed several times before becoming a billionaire. He is one of the richest men in China. He failed at almost everything he attempted from education to career to entrepreneurship.

He failed his middle school examination thrice, got into Hangzhou Normal University in his third attempt, all his ten admission attempt to Harvard University were rejected. He was unable to get a job after graduating from university.

Jack applied for thirty different jobs and got rejected by all and his first two business ventures collapsed. In an interview at the Davos world economic forum, he said ” when KFC came to my city, twenty-four people went for the job. Twenty-three people were accepted I was the only guy who was rejected.” However, that did not deter him from visualizing and founding Alibaba.

Nobody in this world chooses to fail but everyone tastes the bitter pill at some point in their lives. Success comes through rapidly fixing our mistakes rather than getting things right the first time. Every failure is not a winner, but every winner is the output of several failed experiences that culminated in success.

Failure serves as a mirror at each end of our life. It reveals our weakness, strengths, and helps in demonstrating ourselves by strengthing our effects. As Einstein said, ” just because a fish cannot climb a tree doesn’t mean its not smart.” The end is not when you fail, it is when you quit. Never lose faith. Never lose hope and never give up!!!

pain

Let go of the pain

We all have been hurt by someone at some time or another in our lives. We have been betrayed, treated badly, trust has been broken and hearts have experienced tremendous pain. Most times, we allow the pain to linger for too long that we relive the pain over and over again, having a hard time letting it go.

One basic thing that connects us as humans is our ability to feel pain be it emotional or physical. What differentiates us is how we handle the pain we are going through in life.

What exactly are you holding on to?

Is it a failed relationship? A slight from a friend or family member that you just cannot get over it? Have you been betrayed by a loved one or a trusted friend? Or do you need to forgive someone either in person or just in your heart so that you can let go of anger, hatred, bitterness, and step into a more peaceful state?

What you do with that pain is probably more important than the pain itself. Would you prefer to get back from being an emotionally active individual? Or do you prefer to ponder continuously about the past and something that cannot be changed?

How do I let go of past hurts and move on?

This is a question many of us ask ourselves whenever we experience heartache or emotional trauma/ pain. Things don’t disappear on their own. You need to commit to LET IT GO. If you don’t make this conscious decision, you could end up self-sabotaging any effort to move on from past hurt.

You need to realize that you have the choice to let it go. Stop reliving past pain. Stop going over the details of the stories in your head every time you think about it. Stop playing the victim and blaming others.

Being the victim feels good. It is like being on the winning team of you against the world. But guess what? The society largely doesn’t care,  so you need to get over yourself because you are special and your feelings matter.

Although,  your feelings matter it shouldn’t override you and make you feel nothing else matters. Your feelings are just one part of this large thing call life which is all interwoven and complex.

Forgive

Learn to practice forgiveness whenever you are hurt. Forgiveness isn’t a sign of weakness; forgiveness isn’t saying “I agree with what you did” rather, it is I don’t agree with what you did, but I forgive you anyway. Do it for your happiness, well being, and for the time you have left in your life.

There is nothing worse than holding onto resentment about someone or something for years while they happily move on with life. The reality is, doing this only hurts you. The most important thing is that we also have to learn to forgive ourselves. If you can’t forgive yourself, you won’t be able to live in future peace and happiness.

Never allow the person that hurts you in the past, control your happiness. You need to take responsibility for your happiness.  Never you put such power into the hands of someone else. No amount of rumination of analyses has ever fixed any problem. Never! Not in the entirety of the world’s history. So why choose to engage in so much thought and devote so much energy to someone who has wronged you?

Let go of your pain and stop reliving it. Stop telling yourself that story where you are the protagonist: you are forever the victim of the other person’s horrible actions. You cannot undo the past all you can do is to make today the best day of your life.

Every day you choose to hold on to the pain of yesterday is another day wasted. Enjoy the awesome moment’s life brings across your path

Be Proud of Your personality

Be proud of who you are

Most of us spend a lot of time thinking about the things we have done wrong.  We keep remembering the mistakes we have made in life and how we have not achieved all the things that we want to achieve in life. We all have decisions we wish we could take back.

 Stop blaming yourself all the time for things you had no control over. It is human to make mistakes.  You don’t have to wait for someone else to pat you on the back for what you have done in your life. Always remind yourself of how incredible you are; be proud of being you!

One of the things which we don’t have control over is what others think about us. We live in a society that wants to tear everybody down often but none of us are perfect. Some people always want you to behave in a certain way or act a certain way. If you spend your time worrying about what others think about you, you will never be happy in life.

Never allow the opinion of others to destroy your self-confidence. Your dreams shouldn’t be based on the opinion of others. The opinion of others shouldn’t define your identity. What people think about you shouldn’t  cause any form of instability in your health, marriage, career, academics, relationship, business, etc.

Whatever they say about you is an opinion and nothing else. No one knows you better than you know yourself. No matter how hard you try, you are never going to be someone else so be proud of who you are and live your life.

The number of likes and comments you get on social media: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, WhatsApp, etc does not define who you are and how unique you are. Also, the number of followers or Facebook friends that you have will never define your value in life. Rather, you should be proud of what you’ve been able to accomplish so far. Be proud of the many more amazing things you are going to achieve.

Believe it or not, people will always judge and criticize you no matter what. So be criticized for being the person that you want to be in life, not the person that others want you to be. Be proud of who you are as a person by loving yourself and accepting your imperfection. Be excited about your past; not necessarily of everything you have done( we all have regrets), but of how you have kept going and working hard.

Be proud of every time you have failed. The fact that you have failed means one thing is certain: you have tried! Be happy that you had the guts to try in the first place. Be proud of all those times when you faced difficulties. Trust yourself with the decisions you take in life, focus on the positives, remove any form of negativity from your mind, and just be the person that you want to be.

No amount of approval from somebody else is worth dictating how you should live your life. You are worthy of living the best possible life. It is only one life that you will ever get. I love what Phil Mc Graw said:  “Instead of being ashamed of what you have been through, be proud of what you have overcome!”

Is happiness a choice?

Is happiness a choice?

Most times, we feel that when we set goals for ourselves, get our dream jobs, start earning more money, buy our dream house, be in a perfect relationship, get married,….. etc we automatically become happy. But we soon realize that achieving these goals doesn’t give us the happiness that we are craving for.

True lasting happiness is an inner state only you can give to yourself. You have to work towards your happiness the same way you work towards everything else in life. Happy people are not held hostage by their circumstances and do not seek for happiness in people or possessions.

The answer is Yes

Is Happiness a Choice? Quite frankly, the answer is YES! Knowing that happiness is a choice is not enough. By choosing to embrace happiness, you are taking responsibility for your satisfaction.

How then can you choose to be happy when someone has hurt you badly? When circumstances beyond your control are giving you so much pain? Are you doing the things you need to do to achieve happiness or are you letting your emotions take control of you?

If you are struggling to find the root of happiness, incorporate these strategies into your daily life in other to feel happier.

Determine what happiness means to you:

Just as Theodore Roosevelt said, “comparison is the thief of joy”. Comparing yourself with others will only result in unhappiness. Happiness can only come into your life when you love who you are and you are choosing to be the best you can be. Until you have attained that state of belief in you, living a happy life will be completely out of your reach.

Choose meaningful relationships / interactions:

According to Dan Buettner “the people you surround yourself with influence your behaviors, so choose friends who have healthy habits”. Surround yourself and interacts with the people who reflect the person you want to be.

Search for benefits in your pain:

At some point in our lives, we all go through pains and trials. No one can escape from it. Learn to remind yourself always that the trials will pass away. Rather, search deeply to find meaning and benefits within those pains and trials.

Understand how happiness works for you:

We all have different personalities in life. Some of us find it easier to be happy while others do not. Once this works out, then it becomes easier for you to identify what makes you happy.

Besides, happiness is not just a choice but also a daily practice that requires time, consistency, effort, and dedication. Since happiness is a choice, start finding things in your life that you are grateful for. According to Ralph Marson “happiness is a choice, not a result. Nothing will make you happy until you choose to be happy”

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