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Mamus Cherish is an experienced content creator, inspirational speaker, and relationship coach with a passion for helping individuals to actualize their dreams in life.

Accept yourself

Accept yourself the way you are

Accept yourself the way you are. It’s easier said than done, but  I love what Brennan Manning said: “When we accept ourselves for what we are, we decrease our hunger for power or the acceptance of others because our self-intimacy reinforces our inner sense of security. We are no longer preoccupied with being powerful or popular. We no longer fear criticism because we accept the reality of our human limitations. Once integrated, we are less often plagued with the desire to please others because simply being true to ourselves brings lasting peace. We are grateful for life and we deeply appreciate and love ourselves.”

The question is: Do you stand up for yourself when others discourage you? Have you given yourself the benefit of doubt in a difficult or confusing time? Is there the tendency to love yourself for who you are and not what others want you to be? Do you only cheer yourself on when you feel positive or accomplish external goals? These questions might sound odd after all, don’t we all accept ourselves as a regular part of living our daily lives?

Self-acceptance according to Merriam Webster dictionary is the act or state of understanding and recognizing one’s abilities and limitations. It is that ability to accept yourself as you are instead of how you wish you were or how you wish others perceived you. It can also mean the feeling of satisfaction with yourself despite your weaknesses and regardless of your past choices and behaviors.

Self-acceptance doesn’t mean that you accept what you are and will do nothing to change and improve. It does not mean accepting your life and fate as it is. Don’t you say to yourself that” this is what I am, I accept myself as I am? I accept my character, failings, mistakes, fate, and this how it is and I can do nothing about it. I cannot improve myself.”

Knowing yourself allows you to see what you can do to improve yourself and your life. Self-acceptance means that you see your mistakes, accept and acknowledge your present position, and then look for better ways to improve. This implies that you understand and accept your character and habits, stop comparing yourself and achievement to others, and acknowledging your skills or lack of them.

Note that acknowledging your good and bad habits and traits of character can alleviate feelings of anger, regret, dissatisfaction, bitterness, unhappiness, or resentment but it is not an excuse for staying as you are. You are you and that is something that is never going to change.

When you learn to accept yourself and work towards the best version of yourself that you can be, you set yourself up for a life that has an abundance of happiness and progress. Spend some time with yourself by engaging in enjoyable activities so that you can bond with yourself and fall in love with that person.

If you don’t love yourself you will never find the courage to dream. You will eventually lose valuable relationships and you will become dull and lifeless.

If what you are doing now is not working for you, then it is time to do things differently, to change the way you look at yourself. Time to stop the judgment and like yourself more.

Are you going through a financial crisis? Love yourself! Are you experiencing heartbreak at the moment? Love yourself!! Do you feel like giving up? Love yourself!!! Has life dealt you heavy blows and you can’t seem to get back up? Love yourself!!!! Are you separated from your spouse? Love yourself!!!  Learn to see your mistakes not as failures but as learning opportunities.

success

Success is always intentional

In whatever you do in life, always do something intentional every day to create the success you want and deserve. Success is not accidental, it is intentional. Often, we describe successful people as individuals who have a good job, ride good cars, are happily married with kids, dress cutely, live in their own home, etc.

While to some, when they think of success they imagine wealth, others want power while others want to make a positive impact in life. All these are perfectly valid because success is a concept that means different things to different people but, no matter what success means to you, it is not something that will certainly come easily.

There is no single right way to be successful in life because what works for you might not work for someone else. Success is personal and unique to each individual.  It is the ability to reach your goals in life whatever these goals might be.

 You are the only person who intimately knows what you want to accomplish in life. There are certain achievements and milestones you may wish to attain. It is all about making maximum impact that brings fulfillment to  your life.

Identifying what makes you special and who you truly are is the best you can do for yourself if you want to be successful in life. Stop looking to others for validation that you are on the right track. The first step in your journey to success is to have a clear definition of what success means to you. Knowing your destination will keep you traveling on the right path even when the temptation to go off track comes along.

To be successful, you need to dream big, plan and prepare then put in effort and time. Research and find out what you need to do to achieve your goals in life, then aim to be the very best that you possibly can be based on your concept of accomplishment.

Everyone’s path to great accomplishment is different hence when you are pursuing your goals/ dreams, acknowledge that you might make mistakes and fail. Things will not always go according to your plans. Challenges will come but know that the challenges won’t last forever.

There will be mistakes and failures along the way. Mistakes and failures are the bridges you cross on your way towards success. There would be moments when you feel like the end goal is so far away or the process is different. Don’t worry these circles of discomfort are part of the success package. Acknowledge what you are feeling but don’t let it hold you back.

There are no shortcuts to accomplishing great results in life. A building’s foundations go down before the building goes up. It takes sacrifice, patience, time, a passionate desire to succeed, and a strong will to win. Learn from others’ mistakes and you don’t have to reinvent mistakes that others have already made.

Nobody wakes up to become successful in life. Success is always an intentional act. True success comes from work. You will never become successful if you don’t work towards your goal in life and keep working towards it!!!

relationship

Every Relationship have their ups and downs

How would you rate your relationship on a scale-out of 10?

Is there any room for improvement?

If your relationship is like most, then yea, there is room for improvement.

Even if you have experienced a lot of failed relationships in the past or struggling to rekindle the fires of romance in your current relationship, you can learn to stay connected, find fulfillment and enjoy lasting happiness. All romantic relationships go through ups and downs. They all require some level of commitment, respect, trust, loyalty, trust,  honesty, patience,  and a willingness to adapt and change with your partner to make it work.

At some point in our lives, we may believe that love should be like the kind of romance we see portrayed in movies,  television, and novels. Despite the claims of romantic fiction or movies, no one person can meet all your needs. Expecting too much from your partner can put unhealthy pressure on your relationship. If you are expecting to get what you want 100% in a relationship, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Healthy relationships are built on sacrifice. It takes a lot of work on each person’s part to have a healthy affair.

A great number of relationships often fall apart because of a lack of direct communication. When people stop communicating well, they stop relating well but as long as you are communicating you can work through whatever problems you are facing. Your partner is not a mind reader. It is much healthier to express your needs directly to avoid confusion. Your partner may sense something’s but it might not be what you need. What you needed and wanted some years ago for instance may be very different now. So, instead of letting resentment, misunderstanding, bitterness, or anger grow when your partner continually gets it wrong, develop the habit of telling them exactly what you need.

Conflict is inevitable in any relationship. Don’t start arguments over things that cannot be changed. Rather than looking to past conflicts or grudges and assigning blame, focus on what you can do to solve the problem. If you can’t agree, agree to disagree. It takes two people to keep an argument going. If a conflict is going nowhere, you can choose to disengage and move on. Always remember that you are arguing with the person you love.

You will not always be on the same page. Change is inevitable in life and it will happen in your relationship whether you go with it or not. Making a positive change does not need to be a complicated process. It just needs to be a consistent process where you progressively develop new habits of mind through repeated exposure and implementation.

Learn to always adapt to the positive change that is always taking place in your love affair. It will allow you to grow together through both the good times and bad. Like a garden, the more you tend to your relationship, the more it will grow…

haters

Haters don’t determine who we are: Ignore them

Haters are individuals who use negative words, critical comments, and behavior to bring others down by making them look or feel bad. These hurtful and negative comments can be delivered in person, online, or texts.

It doesn’t matter how you choose to live your life; whether you build a business or work a corporate job, have children or choose not to, married or not yet married, travel the world or live in a small town all your life, fat or slim, go to the gym all week or sit on the couch all day, whatever you do, someone will always be a hater. People will always find a reason to project their insecurities, fears, and negativity onto your life and you will have to deal with it.

People might tell you that your business, career, relationship, marriage will never succeed or that you will never accomplish your goals. Worrying about their opinions of you will only make you worse off. Letting others control your thoughts and actions just so they will like you is no way to live life unless you want to be a robot.

We cannot get everyone to like us. Learning to accept that not everyone is going to like you will enable you to focus your attention on working to become a better person. Don’t let haters bring you down, they have no idea of what you are capable of achieving. Ignore their words or let it fuel your motivation.

What someone says about you does not define who you are. His or her opinion of you does not determine your self-worth. You don’t have to win their approval let it go and just be the best person you can be. Haters will always be there. Anyone on the journey to success has them and must know how to remain motivated despite the discouragement and criticism of people.

What you should understand is that these people are telling you what they think about themselves not you. So if they tell you that building your dream business, career or relationship is impossible, this is what they believe for themselves not you. 

They are simply projecting their own belief onto you and you have nothing to do with it. Haters don’t hate you. They hate themselves because you are a reflection of what they wish to be!! 

love

Love is a beautiful thing

It is difficult to define love because everyone’s perception of what love is can be dramatically different. Love is one of the most profound emotions we experience as humans. Any human interaction which will last a lifetime or a decade must be built on mutual love.  Though we can invite deep affection into our lives, we don’t have control over how, when, and where love starts to express itself.

We can feel the love in a variety of different ways: when we are sad, happy, confused, angry, or excited. Our attitude about love can range from affectionate love to infatuation and pleasure. Often, we use love as an action, as a force to keep our relationships with our partner, friends, and family together.

Because love takes on different forms, we can each experience love in our way, which is why defining the term love is so complicated. Love is so hard to define because it does not exist as one thing. We can feel affection for our spouse, parents, friends, children, pets, neighbors, nations, etc. How then do we define something so uncontrollable and versatile?

Love is a basic necessity in everyone’s life. Everyone needs to be loved to live a proper and healthy life. It is the glue that keeps a relationship strong and solid. It holds us all together and makes life worth living. Love is being someone’s strength and can be expressed through actions.

Love is always beautiful, if it is not, then it gives room for questions. You need to understand that your partner had a life before you entered. You cannot ask them to give it up the moment you entered.

They have their priorities. Your partner cannot give you attention 24/7.  Understand it, respect it. Do not expect them to change their schedule completely for you. A true relationship flourishes when partners are committed to behaving lovingly through continual, endless, and unconditional giving.

Love is not all about bliss. There will always be difficult moments. A person who truly loves you will always be with you through the rain and the sunshine. Someone who abandons you during a crisis doesn’t love you. You will not always agree with your partner.

Disagreement is common in a relationship. A healthy relationship will have disagreements at times. This is because as much as you have affection towards a person, both of you are different due to upbringing and perspectives.  Sometimes that is what makes life exciting.

One of the imperfections of love is not loving someone to the extent to which they treasure you. You should not settle where you are not loved, it is a tragic situation. A one-side love is more deadly than a cobra’s venom.

Tangling with someone who doesn’t have affection for you is risky. Also, do not let the heartache of the past imprison and hold you back from loving again because the affection you are craving for is waiting for you! Have a wonderful love life!!!

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