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Mamus Cherish is an experienced content creator, inspirational speaker, and relationship coach with a passion for helping individuals to actualize their dreams in life.

relationship

Every Relationship have their ups and downs

How would you rate your relationship on a scale-out of 10?

Is there any room for improvement?

If your relationship is like most, then yea, there is room for improvement.

Even if you have experienced a lot of failed relationships in the past or struggling to rekindle the fires of romance in your current relationship, you can learn to stay connected, find fulfillment and enjoy lasting happiness. All romantic relationships go through ups and downs. They all require some level of commitment, respect, trust, loyalty, trust,  honesty, patience,  and a willingness to adapt and change with your partner to make it work.

At some point in our lives, we may believe that love should be like the kind of romance we see portrayed in movies,  television, and novels. Despite the claims of romantic fiction or movies, no one person can meet all your needs. Expecting too much from your partner can put unhealthy pressure on your relationship. If you are expecting to get what you want 100% in a relationship, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Healthy relationships are built on sacrifice. It takes a lot of work on each person’s part to have a healthy affair.

A great number of relationships often fall apart because of a lack of direct communication. When people stop communicating well, they stop relating well but as long as you are communicating you can work through whatever problems you are facing. Your partner is not a mind reader. It is much healthier to express your needs directly to avoid confusion. Your partner may sense something’s but it might not be what you need. What you needed and wanted some years ago for instance may be very different now. So, instead of letting resentment, misunderstanding, bitterness, or anger grow when your partner continually gets it wrong, develop the habit of telling them exactly what you need.

Conflict is inevitable in any relationship. Don’t start arguments over things that cannot be changed. Rather than looking to past conflicts or grudges and assigning blame, focus on what you can do to solve the problem. If you can’t agree, agree to disagree. It takes two people to keep an argument going. If a conflict is going nowhere, you can choose to disengage and move on. Always remember that you are arguing with the person you love.

You will not always be on the same page. Change is inevitable in life and it will happen in your relationship whether you go with it or not. Making a positive change does not need to be a complicated process. It just needs to be a consistent process where you progressively develop new habits of mind through repeated exposure and implementation.

Learn to always adapt to the positive change that is always taking place in your love affair. It will allow you to grow together through both the good times and bad. Like a garden, the more you tend to your relationship, the more it will grow…

haters

Haters don’t determine who we are: Ignore them

Haters are individuals who use negative words, critical comments, and behavior to bring others down by making them look or feel bad. These hurtful and negative comments can be delivered in person, online, or texts.

It doesn’t matter how you choose to live your life; whether you build a business or work a corporate job, have children or choose not to, married or not yet married, travel the world or live in a small town all your life, fat or slim, go to the gym all week or sit on the couch all day, whatever you do, someone will always be a hater. People will always find a reason to project their insecurities, fears, and negativity onto your life and you will have to deal with it.

People might tell you that your business, career, relationship, marriage will never succeed or that you will never accomplish your goals. Worrying about their opinions of you will only make you worse off. Letting others control your thoughts and actions just so they will like you is no way to live life unless you want to be a robot.

We cannot get everyone to like us. Learning to accept that not everyone is going to like you will enable you to focus your attention on working to become a better person. Don’t let haters bring you down, they have no idea of what you are capable of achieving. Ignore their words or let it fuel your motivation.

What someone says about you does not define who you are. His or her opinion of you does not determine your self-worth. You don’t have to win their approval let it go and just be the best person you can be. Haters will always be there. Anyone on the journey to success has them and must know how to remain motivated despite the discouragement and criticism of people.

What you should understand is that these people are telling you what they think about themselves not you. So if they tell you that building your dream business, career or relationship is impossible, this is what they believe for themselves not you. 

They are simply projecting their own belief onto you and you have nothing to do with it. Haters don’t hate you. They hate themselves because you are a reflection of what they wish to be!! 

love

Love is a beautiful thing

It is difficult to define love because everyone’s perception of what love is can be dramatically different. Love is one of the most profound emotions we experience as humans. Any human interaction which will last a lifetime or a decade must be built on mutual love.  Though we can invite deep affection into our lives, we don’t have control over how, when, and where love starts to express itself.

We can feel the love in a variety of different ways: when we are sad, happy, confused, angry, or excited. Our attitude about love can range from affectionate love to infatuation and pleasure. Often, we use love as an action, as a force to keep our relationships with our partner, friends, and family together.

Because love takes on different forms, we can each experience love in our way, which is why defining the term love is so complicated. Love is so hard to define because it does not exist as one thing. We can feel affection for our spouse, parents, friends, children, pets, neighbors, nations, etc. How then do we define something so uncontrollable and versatile?

Love is a basic necessity in everyone’s life. Everyone needs to be loved to live a proper and healthy life. It is the glue that keeps a relationship strong and solid. It holds us all together and makes life worth living. Love is being someone’s strength and can be expressed through actions.

Love is always beautiful, if it is not, then it gives room for questions. You need to understand that your partner had a life before you entered. You cannot ask them to give it up the moment you entered.

They have their priorities. Your partner cannot give you attention 24/7.  Understand it, respect it. Do not expect them to change their schedule completely for you. A true relationship flourishes when partners are committed to behaving lovingly through continual, endless, and unconditional giving.

Love is not all about bliss. There will always be difficult moments. A person who truly loves you will always be with you through the rain and the sunshine. Someone who abandons you during a crisis doesn’t love you. You will not always agree with your partner.

Disagreement is common in a relationship. A healthy relationship will have disagreements at times. This is because as much as you have affection towards a person, both of you are different due to upbringing and perspectives.  Sometimes that is what makes life exciting.

One of the imperfections of love is not loving someone to the extent to which they treasure you. You should not settle where you are not loved, it is a tragic situation. A one-side love is more deadly than a cobra’s venom.

Tangling with someone who doesn’t have affection for you is risky. Also, do not let the heartache of the past imprison and hold you back from loving again because the affection you are craving for is waiting for you! Have a wonderful love life!!!

Don't Give up

Don’t ever give up on yourself

Have you stopped believing in yourself because of a failed business, relationship, or career?

Feeling dejected that things are not working out the way you want?

Are you questioning yourself if you have what it takes to achieve your goals?

Are you giving up on love because you can’t seem to find the right person?

You might feel like you are never going to stop making mistakes, you are not going to get it right, everyone you love is going to leave you and you have nothing to offer this world. Those are fears, they are not facts. Your worst moments don’t define you.

As humans, we are naturally wired to seek pleasure and avoid pain. When given a choice most of us will seek out short cuts and choose the easier path. Unfortunately, you will not get to where you want to be in life by dabbling. Almost everything that creates value in life requires intense effort, focus, and hard work.

The road to success is paved with obstacles but you have to persist, keep learning, and never give up. Refuse to give up. Keep going and when you get knocked down, just get back up and keep moving towards your goal. Most successful people in the world were not handed a great life on a silver platter. They were persistent and keep trying even when life got them down.

Abraham Lincoln had several failed elections campaigns before becoming one of the most influential presidents. J.K Rowling was a jobless single parent when she wrote Harry Potter. Walt Disney, owner of the world-famous Disney world filled for bankruptcy seven times and suffered two nervous break downs, but later he became a billionaire. Albert Einstein failed his university entrance examination before becoming a noble prize-winning physicist.

Each of these people could have given up but they kept trying and that determination ultimately allowed them to achieve success. Accept that you will experience failure, criticism, and ridicule. Some people may even try to stop you, others will give up on you but just don’t give up on yourself.

Just because you cannot see anything yet, although you have been working on your goals for a while doesn’t mean that nothing is happening. You may be closer to achieving your dream than you think. Don’t give up, when you could be just moments away from succeeding. 

Refusing to give up does not mean that you should simply keep doing the same thing over and over again. If the approach that you are currently using is not working try a different approach. Continue this way until you find a strategy, technique, or method that will work.

The most successful people in this world never gave up and neither should you. Decide today that you are going to be the best that you can be. Even when your closest friends don’t believe in you and even walk away, don’t let it stop your fight. Keep going through till you succeed!!

bitterness

The danger of bitterness

Bitterness is the feeling of hurt, anger, resentment, and hatred that is build up in our hearts when we have been hurt by others or by an experience in life. Bitterness is a depressant. It can extinguish your joy and enthusiasm for life. It contaminates you with feelings of anger, hatred, jealousy, vindictiveness, animosity, and hostility.

The feelings of bitterness are universal. It is so common and widespread that it affects everyone at some point in their life. No One is excluded or immune from it. There are several reasons why you might find yourself feeling bitter. It could be a relationship breakup, unfaithful spouse, being betrayed by a trusted friend, getting scammed, being neglected, getting abused as a child, loss of a job, not being appreciated for a job well done, experiencing what you feel like unfair treatment, etc. These and many more can cause bitterness to get rooted in your heart.

Bitterness is a cancerous condition that can consume you with fault finding, criticism, negativity, ill-will, and complaining. It can cause emotional and physical fatigue, high blood pressure, loss of appetite, nervous tension, ulcers, and insomnia. People who go through life demanding their way, expecting everything to be in their favor, and for everyone to respect their rights are prone to being bitter.

Holding on to bitterness causes you to stay in a state of anger, helplessness, and resentment that spills over to others. When interpersonal feuds, grudges, controversies, disputes, conflicts, jealousies, competitiveness towards others are not resolved it will lead to increased feelings of bitterness which poison and pollute your whole system. You find yourself thinking about the person who hurt you all the time that you can’t get over it nor get it out of your mind.

When you allow bitterness to remain unchallenged by justifying it, minimizing its seriousness, or by ignoring the unavoidable consequences, the problem will only intensify and reinforce its destructive effects upon your life. You can never grow when you stay at the point of hurt. There are no happy bitter people.  It is okay to be bitter but it is not okay to get stuck for too long with bitterness because when you get stuck, you get lost!!!

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